Although we live in a society that consumes pornography quietly, there are still some dangers, such as some myths of porn movies that harm real sexual relationships.
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Surprised, isn’t it? The site El País talked to sexologists about how pornography can harm sex with its myths that many believe are totally definitive.
Today, by the way, people give away easy information, like Youtube, believing that there are easy explanations about human nature. Porn movies are no different, however, despite nurturing lust, they have created stories, that is, complete fiction.
Porn movie myths
Orgasm always happens in a thousand wonders
Things you know are going to happen, the Roberto Carlos show at the end of the year and the orgasm at the end of a porn scene, that’s practically the law. There may be unforeseen events in the story, but they will not stop at all, because the orgasm is always final.
However, this does not always happen in real life. 🇧🇷Not all sexual relations include or end with an orgasm and are nonetheless pleasurable.”, emphasizes sexologist Lola González, from the Borobil Center.
According to the sexologist, in reality, the body is not always in the best day for an orgasm and they ignore that the reason for having sex does not always end in orgasm.
“Sometimes one can seek pleasure in the form of an orgasm; in others, maybe you want to get closer to the other to feel the security or protection of the partner, for example”.
The ease of casual sex
Another big porn myth is casualness, like that pool cleaner who always gets along and has sex with the lady of the house. Anywhere, casual sex happens fantastically.
“In porn, everything seems so easy and uncomplicated.. In fact, we can go out one night and enjoy casual sex, yes, but with certain precautions.” reflects sexologist Irene Valverde. Especially, according to her, when sex involves strangers or erotic fantasies.
Excitement comes like magic
Things start with a warm-up, it’s not the foreplay they believe it to be. There has to be seduction in gestures and words that stimulate desire for the other, not just touching intimate parts. Sometimes for excitement, the body itself needs a helping hand.
“Although lubricity and arousal often appear together, this does not mean that they are inseparable. They are independent phenomena. You can be aroused but not aroused, and you can be aroused but not aroused.”, he says to Estela Buendía
no one gets tired
One of the other porn myths is that people can put up with repeated hours of sex. However, real life shows that many are happy with that famous rapinha. Sometimes, we set aside time to feel pleasure with our partner.
“We must remember that, as in any film, scenes are cut in porn. That is, if a plan does not convince the director or if the actors and actresses simply get tired, the scene is cut and later in the montage it seems that this cut did not happen.”, says Valverde. We seek to imitate something that is not real.
Big equals pleasure
What is often repeated in movies is that the bigger the penis, the more pleasure women will have. Although, in real life this porn myth doesn’t always apply.
“The greater the size and/or depth of penetration, sometimes what is achieved is discomfort or pain”, says Lola González.
The sexologist points out that “the vagina only has sensitivity in the first third, so it is irrelevant whether the penetration is more or less deep and the penis is bigger or smaller. Indeed, in the case of very large penises, women can feel the ‘blows’ in the pelvis, but this does not mean that it is satisfactory.”.
violence always excites
One thing that some movies do is put violence as something “normal” many times. Although, some people don’t feel so good about it.
“Within our imaginary of erotic fantasies, it can be pleasant for us to think of an encounter in which the sex is violent, such as, for example, being pulled by the hair or thrown on the bed. Now doing is another matter”, reflects Irene Valverde.
It’s one thing to be fantasy and another to be reality. No matter the desire, any sexual play must be discussed to please both partners.
“If we stop to think about it, it is quite logical that we do not do something with another person without their consent and the same happens in sex.”.
Women scream during sex or orgasm
One of the best known clichés is the woman screaming and rolling her eyes in lust. It’s a sight many women are unable to relate to. Because really, there are orgasms that are huge waves and others are smooth and discreet.
For this reason, according to Estela Buendía, “we cannot conclude that our partner is enjoying themselves based on ‘signals’ such as panting, breathing or movement. The only sure way to know how it’s going is to ask”.
Anal sex has no preparation
Did you know that porn movies are one of the biggest aggregators in curiosities about anal sex. Although, in real life it is not so simple.
“O anus is not like the vagina, it does not fit like the vagina and needs to be dilated and lubricated (it does not lubricate itself). If you act brutally and there is no preparation, you can end up with cracks and sores.”, warns Valverde.
“the ideal is to eroticize the process prior to anal penetration”, stimulate with your finger, use special lubricant, a toy to dilate and guarantee comfortable ways.
“Porn actresses do the same, liters of lube and prep. What happens is that this is not seen on camera”.
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